Re: I’m Annoyed at Being a Girl
It’s hard to believe we’re in the 21st century sometimes. I was actually fairly gratified to read this little article on how to propose if you’re a woman.
It doesn’t seem like asking a man to marry you should be a revolutionary act, but it is. I figured this out early on in my life; my dad used to joke that he probably wouldn’t have gotten married if my mom hadn’t asked him. Then she’d get indignant and say she never asked him to marry her, she just said she wanted to get married to him. I didn’t understand why dad thought that was funny (I still don’t). If a woman asks a man to marry her, does that reflect poorly on her in some way? I get an image of the spinster chicken in those old Foghorn Leghorn cartoons; you know, the skinny one in the bonnet with the wire-frame glasses who screams “A MAN!”, and goes chasing after Foghorn, who in turn runs for his life.
When I was in high school, I spent about two years waiting for various guys to ask me out. I realized this was not a winning strategy. Boys at that age rarely know their own mind, and rarely have the courage to take the initiative. I have a tendency to want to cut to the chase, so I decided making the first move would take the pressure off. Actually, I never dated high school boys in high school, but you know what I mean.
I was humming along happily in this mode until I get out of college and made my way into the workforce. I was sitting with my mother and her friend, happily talking about a guy I found attractive and mentioned that I was planning on asking him out. You would have thought I said I was going to shave my head and join a cult. They spent the next twenty minutes trying to talk me out of it, saying that no man would ever respect or appreciate a woman who makes the first move.
It sounded like a lot of bullshit to me then, as it does now. I hear a lot of men find a tattooed woman who makes the first move to be a turnoff, but I’ve never met any of them (winkwink, nudgenudge, know what I mean?).
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