Re: Lessons Learned
I've been having some, shall we say, "anger management" issues lately, and my aunt the certified counselor took it upon herself to help me get some things out in the open.
One of the things she asked me was if I would ever allow a relationship (any relationship) that ended badly to be rekindled.
It was an interesting question. I've had very few relationships go bad, at least in any way I'd notice. Most of the parting of ways I've had was by mutual agreement and would not generally want to be rekindled by either party.
In a situation where I had wronged someone badly enough to warrent a severing of ties, I'm sure I would want to rekindle. And what really surprised me was that I would even be willing to rekindle a relationship with someone who'd wronged me, unless it seemed like I'd put myself in the same situation that allowed myself to be wronged.
I was actually pretty surprised. I have always thought of myself as the holding a grudge type, but it looks like I'm mellowing in my old age.
I think I'm beginning to feel that being right or being protected isn't as important as taking chances on someone who might just turn out to be worth it. Of course, more often than not, they aren't, but into each life some pain and betrayal must fall. What's the big deal? You get hurt, you learn your lesson, you get over it.
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