SEX...RANDOM EXCERPTS
Maxine Daley
A friend I haven't seen in years called the other day. The conversation began sanely enough. She asked how I was doing. I asked the same of her. She asked about my husband. I asked about hers. Then she launched into the real reason for her call--she was divorcing the man because he had become impotent--after twenty-five years of marriage, and she thereupon proceeded to detail the frantic measures the poor man's impotency had led him to while I rearranged the mail on my desk into oblivion. She described her lover--a man about six years younger, but she kept referring to him as "the youngster," also "lover boy," and "the body." She confessed she was having sex morning, noon and night--she was literally sloshing around in it. In conclusion, she begged me not to reveal our mutual age should I ever encounter her anywhere with her "lover boy." I wanted to say, "Where would I encounter you, given that you never get out of bed?"
Dear God, it must be horrible to grow old so berefit, so devoid of interests, so ringing with hollowness inside as to need 24-hour sex for reassurance. Not to mention the need to brag about it, and blather on about intimate marital issues at the same time, over the phone to a captive friend. I must admit thre is a sexual hysteria that affects some women our age that borders on rapaciousness. A mature woman does not dispense her body, she dispenses her favors, when and if she gets around to it, in her own setting and in her own sweet time. And if she has a burning need for around-the-clock sex, she should have the grace to at least not appear to need it.
A newspaper piece about a three-day cruise from Los Angeles to Ensenada, quoted a male passenger as advising another male to "go alone because the women will be plentiful and they will pin you to the deck." He was speaking of the hungry pack of middle-aged women passengers who plied the deck. Who are these older women who shame us? Dignity counts after forty, and we do have to live with ourselves. We are not sex kittens. We are sleek gray cats, and we should ber grooming ourselves for one sleek gray male at a time.
7:55:50 AM 
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