I just got back from a Rotary Club luncheon meeting. My sister, the funeral director, is a member. "Hope I don't see you around too much, heh, heh" all the other Rotarians say to her.
As her guest, I was asked quite a bit, "And so what do you do?"
I just said, "I'm a mom, at home, with my pre-schooler. The topic of today's meeting interests me, though."
"Oh. What is the topic?" Most of the regulars did not know.
The topic at today's meeting, and the reason I asked my sister to invite me, was "The Immigrant Situation in Red Wing". A local immigration attorney was the speaker, along with another local woman who works for the Red Wing Shoe Company and is the town's official bi-lingual woman.
I didn't learn one darn thing that I didn't already know (but we were served a very nice lunch--of chicken and dumplings!!!)
Roughly a year ago, I put an ad in the local paper, in Spanish, looking for a babysitter for Kipp. I wanted him to have a chance to learn some authentic Spanish, from a native speaker. A very nice woman from Mexico answered my ad. She was young, 33, but had heart surgery and couldn't work outside the home. Her three children were school-age and she did babysitting to help pay the bills. So I drove over to her apartment, to meet with her and her family.
The apartment they lived in turned out to be the exact same one my maternal grandparents had lived in in the early 1970's. My grandfather died in that kitchen.
I spent hours there when I was Kipp's age. It was a modest little place, half of a duplex, but back then the lawn was tidy & flowerbeds bordered the house. Conditions had deteriorated greatly; the place had grown sad, unkempt, dank & decrepit. There were rats and old mattresses in the basement. Stepping back into the place some 30 years later was like a shove from the grave, my grandparents telling me that I had to help whoever was living here, in these conditions.
Turned out it was a family of six living in a one-bedroom apartment, a very charming family. Kipp adored their children. The mother and father were good parents, very religious, conscientious and hard-working. They had to leave Mexico because there was no work.
Because Mina, the mother, also baby-sat some other children, she couldn't watch Kipp in my home, and though I knew there were good people inside, I found it difficult to send Kipp to that unhealthy apartment. When the family told me they were considering buying a trailer home they'd had their eyes on, I knew there was a way to help them.
You know how hard it is as a citizen to navigate this country sometimes, to follow all the rules, pay all the taxes, jump through all the financial hoops--for an immigrant it's a thousand times harder.
Some people thought I was nuts, but my husband wasn't one of them, and with his blessings, I went with this family I scarcely knew and co-signed a loan for them so that they could buy their $10,000 piece of the American Dream, an older, but sunny and spacious, three-bedroom trailer home. They've given me no cause for regret. As I told the lady at the bank, "I trust them to watch my child. How can I not trust them to pay back this loan?"
Though I wasn't out for personal gain, it does come back to you. What I gained was education on what it is to be an immigrant in this country, with no real hope of citizenship and, by extension, a greater appreciation of my own.
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