A difficult pregnancy
In case you haven’t read it yet, this month’s issue of the Advocate
includes an article, “Labor of Love”, by Thomas Beatie about his
experience of being a pregnant transman. Thomas, who was born female, is now
legally a male and legally married to Nancy, who is unable to become pregnant
due to previous medical problems. They wanted children, so they made the decision
that Thomas would carry their child. The photo of Thomas with his bulging belly
(he’s due in July) is striking. I couldn’t take my eyes off of it.
(Check
it out)
Personally, I believe that every sane, loving person has the right to be a
parent if they choose, and it would be wonderful if everyone that wanted to
biologically conceive and carry a child could do so. That part is wonderful
and causes the sense of awe I feel when I look at Thomas’ pregnant belly.
But I also feel for him. It can’t be easy–the discrimination, stares
and whispers, and possible threat at the hands of some crazy close-minded person.
If it was me, I couldn’t go out in public....I’d lock myself away
in my home and live in my loving, rainbow hued world. I wouldn’t be brave
enough or secure enough in my own rights to go public. And yet he is....there
he is in the Advocate, and now he is being talked about all over the internet.
I’m glad I didn’t have to go through all of that to be a mother.....I
know I wouldn’t have done it.
9:00:36 PM 
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