| Capacity for: | Actions: | | 1. ATTENTION | sense, probe, observe, listen, find patterns | | 2. INSTINCT | perceive, intuit, let come, know subconsciously | | 3. APPRECIATION | discover, play, learn, laugh, understand, thank | | 4. REFLECTION | suspend, consider, open, let go, entertain, explore | | 5. INTENTION | love, have passion. persevere, follow through | | 6. CRITICAL THINKING | question, infer, deduce | | 7. ELICITATION | incite, provoke, draw out | | 8. IMAGINATION | conceive, ideate, let emerge | | 9. COLLABORATION | facilitate, help, connect, cooperate, co-develop | | 10. RESPONSIBILITY | care, nurture, cultivate, mend, sustain, groom | | 11. RESOURCEFULNESS | bring to bear, supply, give, equip, prepare | | 12. CREATIVITY | model, recreate, innovate, realize | | 13. COMMUNICATION | relate stories, convey, converse, explain, describe | | 14. DEMONSTRATION | offer, show, exhibit | | 15. IMPROVISATION | respond, decide, try, experiment, perform | | 16. RESILIENCE/GRACE | self-change, adapt, self-manage |
Last week I mentioned
that the seven qualities needed to be an excellent collaborator and
those needed to be an exceptional sexual partner were surprisingly
similar. It occurs to me that the capacities needed to be an ideal
member of a Natural Community or Natural Enterprise are likewise
similar to those needed to be an exceptional life partner.
I think there are sixteen such capacities, listed in the table above. Try this experiment:
- On a scale of 1-10, rate yourself on each of the sixteen capacities. Circle the 3-5 capacities you rated yourself lowest.
- Using
the same scale, rate your life partner or significant other, and your
best friend or favourite work colleague. Circle the 3-5 capacities you
rated lowest for each of these people.
If you're like me,
you'll probably find that (a) your weaknesses (and strengths) and those
of the people whose relationships you value most are complementary, and
(b) areas of mutual weakness are real problem areas in your
relationship.
The paradox is that we pick our life partners
based on mutual chemistry, not on the complementarity of their
strengths. Sometimes the chemistry is strong enough to keep the
relationship together despite mutual weaknesses (which often result in
incredible fights, especially when both partners are weak in capacities
1, 3, 10, 11, 14 or 15). At least when it comes to selecting partners
with whom to make a living, or with whom to live in an Intentional
Community, we tend to be relatively objective.
All creatures are
born with most of these capacities, and in natural environments they
get practice strengthening them, joyfully, from the moment they are
born. These capacities are selected for in nature because they help us
to survive. In natural environments the requirements of life are
simple: make a living with those in your community (discover, harvest
and share food and shelter), and work around obstacles that nature
sometimes puts in your path (storms, floods, fires, droughts, diseases
etc.) The sixteen capacities equip you brilliantly for these tasks, as
anyone who watches birds or wildlife can attest.
Humans decided
a few millennia ago to live an artificial life in self-constructed
artificial environments instead. The sixteen capacities are still
enormously advantageous in these more difficult environments, but our
artificial environments create new challenges -- overpopulation and
overcrowding, and the resulting scarcities of resources, wars and
poverty and pollution and epidemic diseases. Workarounds for these
human-created obstacles to a joyful, natural life are much harder to
find. I continue to believe that these artificial environments, and our
excess numbers and consumption, are unsustainable and will lead to the
inevitable collapse that has befallen every previous civilization. And
I believe the best models of sustainability for those who survive that
collapse will be natural, intentional communities whose members have
worked to increase their own capacities and create a life together with
those with complementary capacities. My intention is, one day, to
find the people I was meant to live with, and to create with them a
natural community. In the meantime, I'm working on improving my own
capacities. I suspect I'm like a lot of males in that I need to work
most on capacities 1, 10, 11, 14 and 15. All it takes, I think, is
practice.
I watch young birds and wildlife practicing doing
these things and I'm amazed at how easy and fun it is for them. I watch
young children, even before the school system starts to brainwash them,
already starting to lose these capacities, already being told to spend
their time doing other things, competing with each other, their
curiosity and imagination atrophying from lack of practice, their
self-confidence under siege, being desensitized and made into everybody
else. Imagine an education 'system' that taught and encouraged these
sixteen capacities exclusively!
Imagine a world where we helped each other get better at these things. Imagine what might then be possible.
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