Dave Pollard's environmental philosophy, creative works, business papers and essays. In search of a better way to live and make a living, and a better understanding of how the world really works.
The
way we act, and are seen to act, in this life is a function of two
things: What we choose to do, and How we choose to do it. We can do the
wrong things with style, or, as has been my wont, we can accidentally,
fortuitously end up doing all the right things, badly at first, but
getting better with practice.
There are a small group of people I have known in my life who I would say have presence.
They bring a certain charm and grace to everything they do, and they
generally do it well, even if its accomplishment, in the grand scheme
of things, is not very important. I greatly admire such people, and
recently I have started to study them, to learn from them.
In my
recent post on what I learned from Patti Digh's book Life is a Verb I
described both the things that I now do, intentionally:
playing
learning
loving
conversing
giving (ideas, knowledge, competencies)
self-managing
being present
writing
reflecting
and (somewhat less intentionally and much less elegantly and consistently) how I do those things, my approach to action:
Sense:
Observe, listen,
pay attention, focus, open up your senses, perceive everything that has
a bearing on the issue at hand. Connect.
Self-control:
Don't prejudge or jump to conclusions. Don't lose your cool. Focus.
Understand:
Make sure you have
the facts and appreciate the context. Things are the way they are for a
reason. Know what that reason is. Sympathize.
Question:
Ask, don't tell. Challenge. Think critically.
Imagine:
Picture, hear, feel what could be. Be visionary. Every problem is an opportunity. Anything is possible.
Offer:
Consider. Give something away. Create options, new avenues to explore. Suggest possibilities. Lend a hand. Help.
Collaborate:
Create something
together. Solve a problem with a collective answer better than any set
of individual answers. Learn to yield, to build on, to bridge, to adapt
your thinking.
Intentionally,
I have increased the number of hours per day I spend doing the nine
things I do (above) from 5.5 hours per day to 8.5 hours per day, with
an eventual target of 11.5 hours per day. And I try to do them, whenever I am self-aware,
using the 7-step 'personal presencing' process listed above. This is
very much a passion-to-action 'U' process: sensing, learning, asking,
opening, letting go and letting come, and then realizing, with others.
I
am, alas, not self-aware often enough, although I have taken to wearing
a bracelet as a constant reminder not to get sidetracked from the nine
things I am meant to do, to do the less fruitful and ultimately
unimportant things that we are so relentlessly expected to do; as a
constant reminder to follow my 7-step approach to action; and as a
constant reminder to practice whatever specific exercises I have committed to do to improve my capacities.
As
I apply the above, I reflect with some awe on the fact that my
intentional behaviour is now guided substantially from what I have
learned from people in my gravitational community: The three charts
above are my personal adaptations of models developed by Chris
Corrigan, Patti Digh and Cyndy Roy respectively -- three people I have
never met in person.
So it was with great anticipation that I read the highly-recommended (by four people in my gravitational community) book Improv Wisdom, by Patricia Ryan Madson. I hoped that, through practicing improvisation, I could refine and make easier my 7-step process.
Madson's
book is delightful slim (148 small pages) and readable. It has some
wonderful insights in it. It is based around a set of 'maxims' which,
paraphrased, combined and oversimplified a bit, are as follows:
Say
"Yes, and...": Adapt yourself. Accept instead of trying to control the
situation. Don't presuppose that you have a better idea, don't change
or steer the subject, don't correct others, don't disengage. Listen and
go with the conversation. Pay attention and go with the situation.
Be
resilient instead of preparing: Don't anticipate or lock yourself in.
Learn to be ready for whatever may happen. Breathe and be present in
the moment. Learn to hold balance, to yield, to open and hold open.
Just
begin: Show up. Start with what's important or what's obvious. Step
onto the stage. Be on time and value your time. Move. Act to discover what comes next.
Make sense: Be clear, even obvious, rather than trying to be clever. Clarify. Explain. Articulate.
Pay
attention to details: Stand still and look until you really see, listen
until you really hear. Use all your senses. Learn to remember people's
names and other details. (This is especially hard for me because I find
a lot of what I pay attention to uninteresting, which is a terrible
reflection on my inability to concentrate.)
Be utterly
truthful: Face the facts, and understand them and why they are so. Stop
wishing that things (or you) were different. See procrastination,
blaming, self-criticism and self-sabotage for what they really are, and
then do something about them.
Be aware of your purpose: As you
achieve it find your next purpose. Ask what would not be achieved if
you were not here. Do things intentionally.
Share your gifts:
Be a steward not a master. Know and share your gifts and discover new
ones. Appreciate others' gifts. Mention what you appreciate. Be
supportive and accept support. Share control. Make others look good. Be
kind.
Make mistakes: Mistakes are how we learn, growth, stretch (the word intention
means 'stretching towards', and intending is a risky and error-prone
practice). It's also how life evolves, makes quantum leaps, gets better.
Play: Have fun. Be boisterous. Smile.
Madson
notes that there are some activities that do not lend themselves to
improvisation, that need to be done in a planned, precise, intentional
way, but these activities are rare, and most of what we do is better
done without a script. Improvisation takes some courage,
self-confidence, and faith in others, which are also qualities best
learned through practice. Madson asks us to ask ourselves: What would you do if you knew you would not fail?
These
ten qualities of excellent improvisation are imbued with generosity,
humility and grace. To some extent you need to bring them to the
practice of improvisation, and to some extent they are what you acquire
and learn through improvisation, in a virtuous cycle.
I've tried
to figure out how these ten qualities of improvisation fit with my
seven step approach to action. I've concluded, I think, that they are
guidelines and hints on how to be better at sensing, self-control,
understanding, questioning, imagining, offering, and collaborating. And
how to cope when you run into trouble with any of the seven steps.
I'm still learning. Once I've practiced a bit more I'll let you know.
People
who have inspired or informed me frequently over the past few months.
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- great finds: resources,blogs,essays, artistic works
- news not found anywhere else
- category killers: aggregators that capture the best of many blogs/feeds, so they need not be read individually
- clever, concise political opinion consistent with their own views
- benchmarks,quantitative analysis
- personal stories,experiences,lessons learned
- first-hand accounts
- live reports from events
- insight:leading-edge thinking & novel perspectives
- short educational pieces
- relevant "aha" graphics
- great photos
- useful tools and checklists
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- fun stuff: quizzes, self-evaluations, other interactive content
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- 'thank you' comments, and why readers liked their post
- requests for future posts on specific subjects
- foundation articles: posts that writers can build on, on their own blogs
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