The
first section of my book Finding the Sweet Spot
is about discovering where what you're good at, what you love doing,
and what is needed in the world (that you care about) intersect. The
book describes a number of exercises you can use to help hone in on
this 'sweet spot'. Over our lives, as we learn more (including more
about ourselves) and change, this sweet spot will change, too. The
search for the sweet spot is a lifelong, evolving one.
On the weekend I pointed you to an approach
my friend Jean-Sébastien has successfully used to help a group of people
find their collective sweet spot -- the work they as a group are
'meant' to do. Today I want to bring to your attention an approach you
can use personally if you really haven't a clue what you are meant to do -- if you
don't even know where to start. It's an exercise in acquiring
self-knowledge, designed by Otto Scharmer's Presencing
Institute.
The exercise entails answering the following 17 questions, a process
that Scharmer says should take you a couple of hours. It's called the U
Journaling Practice, and the questions are as follows:
Challenges: Look at yourself from outside as if you
were another person: What are the 3 or 4 most important challenges or
tasks that your life (work
and non-work) currently presents?
Self: Write down 3 or 4 important facts about
yourself. What are the important accomplishments you have achieved or
competencies you have developed in
your life (examples: raising children; finishing your education; being
a
good listener)?
Emerging Self: What 3 or 4 important aspirations,
areas of interest, or undeveloped talents would you like to place more
focus on in your
future journey (examples: writing a novel or poems; starting a social
movement; taking
your current work to a new level)?
Frustration: What about your current work and/or
personal life frustrates you the most?
Energy: What are your most vital sources of energy?
What do you love?
Inner resistance: What is holding you back? Describe
2 or 3 recent situations (in your work or personal life) where you
noticed one of the following
three voices kicking in, which then prevented you from exploring the
situation you
were in more deeply:
Voice of Judgment: shutting down your open mind
(downloading instead of inquiring)
Voice of Cynicism: shutting down your open heart
(disconnecting instead of relating)
Voice of Fear: shutting down your open will
(holding on to the past or the present instead of letting go
The crack: Over the past couple of days and weeks,
what new aspects of your Self
have you noticed? What new questions and themes are occurring to you
now?
Your community: Who makes up your community, and what
are their
highest hopes in regard to your future journey? Choose three people
with
different perspectives on your life and explore their hopes for your
future
(examples: your family; your friends; a parentless child on the street
with no access
to food, shelter, safety, or education). What might you hope for if you
were in
their shoes and looking at your life through their eyes?
Helicopter: Watch yourself from above (as if in a
helicopter). What
are you doing? What are you trying to do in this stage of your
professional and
personal journey?
Imagine you could fast-forward to the very last
moments of your
life, when it is time for you to pass on. Now look back on your
life's journey
as a whole. What would you want to see at that moment? What footprint
do you want to
leave behind on the planet? What would you want to be remembered for by
the
people who live on after you?
From that (future) place, look back at your current
situation as if
you were looking at a different person. Now try to help that other
person from
the viewpoint of your highest future Self. What advice would you give?
Feel, and sense, what the advice is -- and then write it down.
Now return again to the present and crystallize what
it is that you
want to create: your vision and intention for the next 3-5 years. What
vision and
intention do you have for yourself and your work? What are some
essential core elements
of the future that you want to create in your personal, professional,
and
social life? Describe as concretely as possible the images and elements
that occur
to you.
Letting-go: What would you have to let go of in order
to bring your
vision into reality? What is the old stuff that must die? What is the
old skin
(behaviors, thought processes, etc.) that you need to shed?
Seeds: What in your current life or context provides
the seeds for
the future that you want to create? Where do you see your future
beginning?
Prototyping: Over the next three months, if you were
to prototype a
microcosm of the future in which you could discover "the
new" by
doing something, what would that prototype look like?
People: Who can help you make your highest future
possibilities a
reality? Who might be your core helpers and partners?
Action: If you were to take on the project of
bringing your
intention into reality, what practical first steps would you take over
the next 3 to 4 days?
The purpose of this exercise is not, as it might first appear, to
create a roadmap of your future life and career. The real purpose is to get important insights about yourself.
If you've never thought about your Gifts or your Passions, these
insights are likely to come from questions 2, 3, 5, and 7 -- but only
if you give a lot of thought to them, and if you have either the
experience or imagination to really know what the answers to these
questions are or might be. If you can't answer these questions easily,
you may have to try some new things to discover what you really love,
and what you really do well. You may also find that some of the things
you've idealized, that you think you would love doing, you'd actually
not like at all.
For others, more knowledgeable about their
Gifts and Passions, the insights may well come from the "What's holding
you back?" questions 1, 4, 6 and 13.
Questions 8-11 are about
perspective. In my book I suggest as an exercise writing your own
obituary, assuming you've accomplished everything you hoped to in your
life, to gain that perspective. Insights from these questions are
likely for those who are so bogged down in their day-to-day existence
they can't see any way out, or forward.
If (or once) you have
that perspective, the insights are likely to come from the "First next
steps" questions 12, 14, 15, 16 and 17. If the first 11 questions have
forced you onto the high-diving platform, these last questions are the
ones that will push you to jump. You may get cold feet and be tempted
to go back and modify your answers to the earlier questions, and make
those intentions and dreams more modest.
I hope you can resist
this temptation. Better to sit down on that high lonely perch and think
awhile, than to make the humiliating climb back down the ladder. I
confess the last four questions are the ones that I found the hardest,
and my tentative answers to them brought me the most startling insight.
I'm a lifelong procrastinator, and even in my Last 37 Days exercise
(another exercise I'd highly recommend for gaining self-knowledge) I
was pretty damned complacent -- saying it wouldn't give me enough time
to do anything new and important, so I'd just spend it in reflection,
alone.
So my answer to question 14 was: My
future begins with meeting a lot of new people, people I've intended or
always wanted to meet, and inviting them to co-invent our future
together. That will take a lot of courage, perhaps more than I
have, yet. It will also require me to keep an open mind about the new
people I meet, to love them more easily, and to see the opportunity to
live and make a living with them, even if it may not be obvious at
first. I think I know what I am intended to do, and to be, but perhaps
this answer will change as I explore, collectively in conversation in
community with people I love, our collective intention.
And my answer to question 15 was: It
would be the first collective design of an (intentional) Natural
Community with three or four Natural Enterprises operating within it.
The very concept of a genuine collective design, of trusting other
people enough to have them co-design your future, is very frightening.
But I don't think working models are likely to come from anyone's
individual genius -- not social or ecological models anyway, since they
are inherently complex. Individual genius is useful only for the merely
complicated designs -- technologies. And technologies aren't going to
fix what's broken.
My answer to question 16 was: I haven't the faintest idea.
My initial answer was the people in my blogroll, and specifically that
subset in my Gravitational Community shown in the right sidebar of this
blog. But I don't even know
most of these people, not really. Somehow, however, I think we'll
awkwardly find each other. With lots of practice inviting others to
explore these important questions with us, we might finally learn who
we're meant to live and make a living with. I am completely convinced
it is not one person, not a nuclear family. In community is the future
of the world, even though almost none of us remembers or knows what
real community is about.
And my answer to question 17 was: Keep on being myself, and doing what I do,
specifically: to play, to love, to learn, to converse, to give (ideas,
energy, knowledge, capacities), to be self-disciplined in maintaining
my health and expanding my personal capacity, to write, to reflect, and
to be attentive. Some may say that is not 'intentional' enough, that it
is not a clear vector towards my intentions in questions 14 and 15. But
we can only control so much of our own lives, and we have to learn to
trust that, by being the best we can be, and by being open, the paths
we must follow, together, will emerge from our collective wisdom, and
these paths will realize our collective intention.
We must not procrastinate, but we must be patient.
What
insights did you get from answering these questions? What did you learn
about yourself? Where do you see your future beginning?
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