THE ONLY ANTIDOTE FOR UNWORTHINESS IS GRATEFULNESS
The only antidote for unworthiness is gratefulness for gratefulness forces us to realize that we have been loved ~ even during our darkest and most emotionally alone moments : Allen L Roland
Like a thick lead blanket Unworthiness eventually suffocates all love, joy, intention and purpose because of it's relentless self-negating message that "I don't deserve to be loved", "There must be something wrong with me" and "being myself is not enough".
Under this oppressive weight of unworthiness the tendency is to run away from, push away or disqualify the persons who love you or are closest to you - because deep inside you cannot accept being loved for just being yourself!
Usually the only person you can fully open your heart with is someone with the same, if not worse, unworthiness issues as you - then it's safe and each party will attempt to fill the other's emotional void. The problem is there is no way you can fill their emotional void or they fill yours - it is a dead end street emotionally! Like a self-fulfilling prophesy unworthiness will always lead us back to our original self-negating message until we finally embrace and love ourself !
SO HOW DO WE GET BEYOND UNWORTHINESS?
Only by fully opening your heart will you come face to face with all the fears, guilt and unworthiness that stands in the way of fully loving and being fully loved. It is the ultimate YES to yourself!
But gratefulness is the vehicle to fully opening your heart for gratefulness is the life blood of Soul Consciousness, the Unified Field and the universal urge to unite. Gratefulness forces us to realize we are not alone and we have been seen ~ regardless of the depth of our aloneness.
God only reveals itself to a grateful heart because God is a loving plan in action ~ an evolutionary process with which we all participate as co-creators. Gratefulness is the celebration of this human commonality.
IN SUMMARY
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We all came from a place of love,joy and soul consciousness ~ regardless of whether we were wanted or later felt unloved or unseen.
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Only by fully surrendering to love can we face and go through the fears and unworthiness that keep us from truly being ourselves, being loved and able to fully love.
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In Relationship, You must be willing to let go if that person cannot or will not join you at that level. You deserve to be fully loved and you cannot fill anyone's emotional void - only they can ! Great love can both take hold and let go ! Until you let go, you cannot grow ! If you can let go from a place of gratefulness and unconditional love, you will fully embrace yourself and become one with source ~ as I have. One opportunity to learn this great truth is at http://myrelationshipcure.com/
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Gratefulness is the only antidote for unworthiness because it forces us to acknowledge that we have been loved and are worthy of being loved.
Only love truly heals and only love can lift the suffocating and burdensome blanket of unworthiness , that stifles all self-worth, because only love joins us to what is deepest within ourselves and the truth of these words by Teilhard de Chardin:
Love alone is capable of uniting living beings in such a way as to complete and fulfill them for it alone takes them and joins them to what is deepest within themselves.
ONLY LOVE UNITES AND HEALS
Allen L Roland http://blogs.salon.com/0002255/2008/11/23.html
Freelance Online columnist and psychotherapist Allen L Roland is available for comments, interviews, speaking engagements and private consultations ( allen@allenroland.com )
Allen L Roland is a practicing psychotherapist, author and lecturer who also shares a daily political and social commentary on his weblog and website allenroland.com He also guest hosts a monthly national radio show TRUTHTALK on www.conscioustalk.net
