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THE ULTIMATE DANCE / SPIRITUAL RELATIONSHIP
Spiritual relationship is a dance of intimacy ( a means to an end versus an end in itself ) wherein both partners continually take hold and let go ~ leading eventually to true SELF, inner joy and validation and the courage and freedom to fully express and sing ones own true song : Allen L Roland
The true intent of relationship is the full flowering of each partner. Thus, relationship must be seen as a journey towards self discovery and the path is always through doors of fear.
Telihard de Chardin said it best when he wrote ~ "The only right love is that between couples whose passion leads them both, one through the other, to a higher possession of their being."
Spiritual relationship begins when both partners realize that their quest will be fulfilled not in any " perfect relationship, " but only when they reunite with their authentic self, which is always trapped within a prison of childhood fears ~ especially Fear of Abandonment, Fear of Intimacy, Fear of Rejection, Fear of Aloneness and finally Fear that Being myself is not enough.
This is precisely what I do in my short term therapy ~ I take people through their deepest fears by jump starting their hearts and reconnecting them to the love and joy that is deepest within themselves.
It only takes seven SESSIONS because they are essentially healing themselves by taking responsibility for not only love but for their initial decision to separate from their authentic self ~ in order to survive, stay in control and protect themselves from psychic pain.
A spiritual relationship, as such, is two people on a common path to find and celebrate who they really are ~ using the love that exists between them as the vehicle. Such a relationship is not painless for it forces each partner to eventually unconditionally love the other but in so doing ~ each partner perfects themselves.
Very few people have the courage to embark on the journey of the heart but those who do are blessed ~ for they will eventually conquer fear, transcend time and space and become a fragment of life's heart.
Allen L Roland
Allen L Roland is a practicing psychotherapist, author and lecturer who also shares a daily political and social commentary on his weblog and website allenroland.com He also guest hosts a monthly national radio show TRUTHTALK on www.conscioustalk.net
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